Bullying is best dealt with when Parents and School work together.
Your advice and information is important. We need to know if we are to solve difficulties.
WHAT IS BULLYING?
Because of the uncertainty that often surrounds bullying it is important to have a definition of what it actually is.
According to the Scottish Council for Research in Education booklet, ‘Action against Bullying’ :
Bullying is the wilful, conscious desire to hurt or threaten or frighten someone else. To do this, the bully has to have some sort of power over the victim, a power not always recognisable to the teacher.
Bullying can take many different forms -
Violence / aggression
Verbal abuse / threats / name calling
Being teased / pushed or pulled about
Being ignored / left out
Having your possessions thrown around
Having untrue things / rumours spread
Being laughed at / sneered at
WHAT DO WE ADVISE CHILDREN TO DO IF THESE THINGS ARE HAPPENING?
TELL A GROWN UP - EVEN IF YOU ARE AFRAID
TELL - Parents
Head Teacher or Depute Head
A Family Friend
A School Friend
Support Assistant (ladies in yellow jackets)
Anyone You Can Trust
or Leave a note for Head Teacher or Depute Head
How do we inform your child about Bullying?
Assemblies focussing on bullying and how it makes victims feel.
Circle Times in classes where children can share their feelings and talk about what is happening in their lives.
We have a policy shared with all school staff. Staff refer any issue / incident of bullying to promoted staff promptly. Children are informed of this.
Promoted staff / teachers inform children regularly of how we expect them to use adults to solve conflict / bullying issues.
Solving conflict / bullying issues can be difficult. It is always best dealt with when school and parents work together and give the same, consistent messages to the children.
WE TELL CHILDREN
Always use adults to help solve these difficulties.
Be prepared to forgive / forget / move on.
Accept that we all make mistakes.
If things don't stop - tell again.
WE TELL THEM NOT TO
Hit back - this often makes things worse and heightens the bullying behaviour.
Involve others i.e. friends, older brothers & sisters - this tends to make the situation worse.
Keep things to themselves - usually this means no change in the behaviour towards them.
HOW CAN YOU HELP US?
Please contact us immediately and promptly if something unpleasant is going on outside school hours. Let us know what is happening quickly.
WHAT IS NOT HELPFUL?
Parents occasionally come to school claiming their child has been bullied long term having never previously contacted us or being explicit about what is / has been going on. If we don't know the details of what has been happening / who is involved then we can't deal with the issue.
Parents involving their children in their own personal disputes.
HOW DO WE TRY TO RESOLVE ISSUES?
There is a difference between conflict and bullying issues.
Conflict issues are where there is no ongoing feud but two children have fallen out.
On these issues we put the children together. Sit with them, talk through what has happened, and ask children how they might have behaved differently. We get apologies from the children and ensure they have resolved any issues before they return to class as friends.
Bullying issues are where there is an ongoing feud / bad feeling among children.
On these issues we put children together as we would with conflict issues. Again we talk through the issues and ask children to acknowledge the behaviour that needs to be changed. The difference in dealing with this type of issue and conflict issues is that the CONSEQUENCES of not altering the behaviour are more serious and will involve sanctions in school, outside agencies, parents. We always arrange a follow up interview for children who have been involved in bullying- whether as a bully or as a victim so that we are assured that the behaviour
is resolved. WE ALWAYS SEEK SOLUTIONS.
The following information is issued to all schools as a Management Circular (No 57) for inclusion in School Handbooks.
All educational establishments and services must take positive steps to help children protect themselves by ensuring that programmes of health and personal safety are central to the curriculum and should have in place a curriculum that ensures that children have a clear understanding of the difference between appropriate and inappropriate behaviour on the part of another person, no matter who.
As with other areas of the curriculum, you will be kept informed of the health and personal safety programme for your child’s establishment.
Schools, establishments and services must create and maintain a positive ethos and climate which actively promotes child welfare and a safe environment by:
ensuring that children are respected and listened to
ensuring that programmes of health and personal safety are central to the curriculum
ensuring that staff are aware of child protection issues and procedures
establishing and maintaining close working relationships and arrangements with all other agencies to make sure that professionals collaborate effectively in protecting children.
Should any member of staff have concerns regarding the welfare or safety of any child they must report these concerns to the head of establishment. The head, or the person deputising for the head, after judging that there may be grounds for concern regarding the welfare or safety of any pupil must then immediately advise the duty senior social worker at the local social work services area office of the circumstances.
Throughout our school Handbook, you will find references to how we meet the terms of this Management Circular.
If any parent/guardian has any concerns or would like further information, they should speak to the me.
Although this information is correct at time of printing, there could be changes affecting any of the matters dealt with in the document:
before the commencement or during the course of the school year in question;
in relation to subsequent school years.